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3 Ways to Get People to Like You in 60 Seconds or Less
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Getting folks to like you is not that tough; it just takes being a fair person who has got the interest of others at heart. This article will give you 3 ways to get people to like you in 60 seconds or less.
It may seem a little very unlikely to get people to like you so quickly, but there is a reason for it, and it's summed up in understanding folks and what they look for in others.
Folks typically have good excuses for not liking somebody. Annually a poll is taken to find the most detested athletes. In 2012 the list includes Michael Vick, Tiger Woods and Kris Humphries at the top. Woods leads the list basically due to the vast amount of press surrounding his recent infidelity and divorce .
To sum it up, they're disliked for many different reasons, but there is something they seem to have in common, that is they all seem to lack personality, show small concern for others and are minus integrity. Those are opposite of the things folks look for to ascertain if they like you or not .
Three ways to get people to like you are:
1. Develop some personality
2. Show interest in others
3. Be truthful to oneself and others
First: Develop some personality
It seems as if some people like to develop the stature of being bad. If that is their goal, it definitely will not make them liked by others. I have known folks I did not feel safe in their presence because I didn't know what they might do that might get me into trouble by association, or maybe if they might turn on me when they drank a little bit. Manifestly I made it a point not to be around them. Developing a name of being a good person always is superior for making pals and getting folk to like you. Actually , not even bad folk like other bad folk.
There are over 170 words that describe the diverse kinds of characters, so accordingly these words might be used in numerous mixes for millions of different sorts of character.
The Six Pillars of Character, which was developed one or two years back by the Josephson Institute has simplified the approach with the goal of teaching character basically to kids, and it is a guide for teaching character to all age groups today. The moral values that are taught are those that most any person would agree are sufficient for character building; they are not directed to any culture, religion, or political body. They have been cut down to just 6 basic precepts:
1. Honesty
2. Respect
3. Responsibility
4. Fairness
5. Caring
6. Citizenship
While these are pretty easy to understand with just the word, the Josephson Institute clearly defines and explains their application on their web site.
Second: Demonstrate some interest in others
The most vital thing you can do to get someone to like you is show a deep interest in them. Everyone has a tale, a spare time interest, a family or a job and you make them feel important by asking about those things or anything else hooked up to them.
Which of these 2 people would you like? You meet Beth who asked you your name right off and then starts to call you by it. She's got a warm smile and asks questions about you and your folks and pays very close attention to what you are saying. You also meet Eddie who doesn't ask your name, and even if you let him know he doesn't remember it for 5 seconds. He is paying little attention to you but instead is looking round the room to see who else is there. It is no contest which of these two you are going to like. You will almost certainly like Beth in no more than 60 seconds and doubtless will never like the Eddie.
If you need folk to like you, these are some guidelines that work:
- Make a powerful initial impression by having a warm grin and genial attitude. Others will form an opinion of you in a few seconds, likely less than 60 seconds. Though, it'll depend not only on your attitude, but also whether you made them feel important or not.
- Learn a name right at first and repeat it in your mind several times and start to call the individual by it. After you leave them, write their name down and make an association to help remember it the next time. If you can remember their. Name the next time you see them, they are for sure going to love you particularly if you are also doing the other things on this list.
- Focus on what the other person is pronouncing and ask questions from time to time. Don't pretend to listen while you are thinking about what you are going to claim next. People will see right through it and be turned off.
- Raising questions is the fuel for a good conversation. Folk enjoy telling you about their family if you ask, or their job or what they have been doing. Attempt to ask open ended questions that can not be answered with a word or two.
- Always show proper respect to all you speak with. Avoid the 3 Cs: Complaining, condemning and criticizing. Never try to overshadow someone else with your superior awareness of a subject.
- Show appreciation and be among the few who ever do. Your real compliments and thanks will go far to make a positive impression. And I want to say that we are not almost making impressions or winning favor, but about being a good person and genuinely caring for others. We show concern for others by getting past our self-serving agenda and caring about others concerns. Check to determine what number of folks call you just to ask how you are? Possibly will not be many.
- When you see folks at work or wherever, acknowledge them by employing their name and greet them with an amicable grin. Go out of you way to practice this.
- Be an inspiration to others by your love, concern, and positive attitude. Inspire others, and share in their grief when a love one, or pal dies, or when other things occur in their life that pulls them down.
- If you know the anniversary or birthday of a chum, call them or send a card to make them aware you are thinking about them on their special day.
Nothing I have discussed above is difficult to do and only takes a little time. It does take a bit of practice to make it an automatic part of your character, but it'll make other individuals like you like nothing else you can do.
Third: Be honest to yourself and others
A pastor once asked the congregation: How many here today have ever told a lie in your whole life? Lift up your hand if you have. Every hand went up. Then he asked them: How many of you have ever stolen anything whether it had been a nickel off the bedroom dresser or anything more? Again all hands went up. The preacher then said: What we have here then is a congregation of liars and thieves, and then of course there was laughter.
Who of us has traditionally been perfectly truthful in everything we've already said or done? The Scripture says: There is none perfect, no not one .
Honesty is the elemental part to personal growth. It doesn't matter how well you do other things if you are not truthful, all else is worthlessly. Folks will finally see through you and won't trust you. As the old saying goes: You can fool some of the people some of the time but you can't fool all the people all the time . I am not talking about perfection but a solid attempt to be honest. You aren't going to face all the issues in your life at once; it will take time to become what you aim to become.
Honesty must be practiced like any other expansion principle till it is an element of the personality. Some use dishonesty to avoid facing the issues about themselves that they don't want to face. That kind of behaviour traps a person into a state of poor self-worth and halts their forward movement, keeping them from ever growing and attaining their dreams and goals in life.
One of the most extreme examples illustrating how dishonesty works on somebody and the cost of rectifying it I've ever heard was of a school graduate who sometime after his graduation returned and informed the Dean of Education that he could no longer live a lie, and he turned in his diploma, and asked his name be expunged from the school records because he had cheated his way through school. That took plenty of bravery but it was an obligatory payment, at least for him, to clear the conscious and take a new start in honesty. I'm not endorsing that anyone follow this fellows example, but I say that honesty permits us to be comfortable with whom we are; dishonesty creates a false person, somebody who is less than real and is not comfortable with who they may be.
Here is a warning: You can be extremely truthful but at the same time be unpleasant if you use your honesty to belittle everybody around you. Keep in mind if you have accomplished to the point where honesty is your second nature, there are several who have not yet had the same experience. They should not be a target for your self-righteousness. The major thrust of personal development is the power to treat others with kindness and love and not with a conceited judgmental attitude. Our responsibility isn't. To change someone else but to change ourselves by being truthful with ourselves and others.
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